3 short thoughts for a long day

it's life isnt it?

you plow ahead and make a hit.

and you plow on and someone passes you.

then someone passes them,

time levels.

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this sentence left a deep impression:

[you have not converted a man because you have silenced him]

this applies so much to life and says so much about beliefs.

1) someone uses authority to force another to keep quiet
2) someone threatens another to stay away from trouble
3) ur boss or parents ask u to "shut up"
4) someone giving in after a heated quarrel
5) a kid being slap coz he cried for wanting something
6) an elderly keeping quiet when others insult or scold them
7) someone killing another in order to "silence" him
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and the list goes on...

juz because somehow or another, due to some power or rights, someone managed to "win" over the other in terms of the desired outcome. take number 3 for example. ur boss "ordered" you to keep quiet and listen to his views instead. due to legitimate power, he won. u cant do anything except "listen" to him.. did he succeed? yes he did. he managed to make u shut up. but does that change ur views that ur idea is better than his? NO.

u slap a child so that he does not yell anymore after u refused to buy him that "violent" toy. your actions stopped his cries. but have you changed his mind about wanting the toy? NO.. and because u think the toy will induce violent thoughts in the kid doesnt mean that he agrees with you. the desire juz got strongly.. yes he wont yell anymore but he wont agree with your "false" beliefs either.

on the surface, we might look as if we're being "bought over", "surpressed" or "convinced." deep down, the beliefs burn stronger.. there is NO way u can prevent this from happening. it's all in the mind.

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when asked, many would say that long term relationships need alot of compromise.

we give and we take. if there's really nothing we can do, we give and give. to many, that's unconditional love. that's when i ABSOLUTELY disagree. there is a time to give and a time to take. when u have misconceptions about that, the relationship is a gonna.

that's why i STRONGLY BELIEVE:

[Long term relationships need alot of LAUGHTER]

smile and laugh more. it's the happy feeling that brings about satisfaction, induces contentment and results in happiness.. by giving in, nothing will last.. trust me.. =)