compliment and masks

it feels nice when someone pays me a compliment.. one that doesnt sets me thinking if the person has other underlying motive or when it seems so fake..

it's like having a warm cup of tea on a cold raining day... sometimes we, or i rather, suspect things too much.. not that i'm trying to examine everything that pple say to me.. but i juz cant help thinking further and questioning the worth of what others say to me abt me..

we all know, roughly, who we are.. therefore it is natural when we try to match what was said to what we have, comparing and determining the "compatibility". this is the part when sarcasm is being spotted in many cases, thru the wrong tone and all..

was chatting to yj in msn ytd.. and he brought up the topic abt masks and backstabbing.. it's true that we put on different masks on different occasions, for different situations and with different pple.. it's natural.. it is an adaptation skills, to put it nicely..

putting on masks is not that terrible as what pple might think it is.. it is a way of dealing with a variety of things and pple in life.. it is NORMAL.. u behave differently at home and with our frens.. can u say that it's abnormal? NO is the answer..

it is a basic survial "tool" we are equipped with in order to live.. if we put away all the masks and face the world with only 1 face, den i can tell u, u're doomed.. this is not being honest and true.. this is being inflexible, stubborn and dumb..

however, this is not at all impossible.. u can face the world with one true you WHEN, we are all replicas of each other, inside and out, and when u can use that 1 side of u to handle that person.. if not, too bad.. u failed..

even when we put on masks, the "real" us will still slowly come out, revealing itself bit by bit.. this allows the "other party" to accept who u are slowly and not all at once.. coz even frens, u may like me for maybe the way i handle situations but hate my temper or sth.. besides tt, diff pple have diff limits to certain behaviours and all.. therefore masks are the best tool to use against all these..

we are all imperfect but i strongly believe that perfect moments happen to imperfect pple at the most imperfect time.. and of course this is aided by other factors.. and putting on masks is one of them.. it's juz like acting.. u muz grasp the concept and den apply to daily life? sth like that??

so in conclusion, putting on masks is not at all a negative thing.. it enables us to be flexible in handling the complications of our daily lives.. =)