~ used? ~

some pple say that they dun mind being used by others, if the other person benefits and "kai xin jiu hao".. others say that they dun mind as long as they dunno that they're being used.. and yet another grp says that they dun like being used at all coz it's juz not right.. sort of unfair.. actually, it IS unfair..

of course if u dunno that u're being used, u wont be angry.. or upset.. coz nth seems out of place.. but sometimes, pple make assumptions that are not true at all.. and the poor party gets the full blame or impact.. that is why we shld always give pple a chance to explain and present their point of views.. coz for all u know, u might be the one in the wrong and well, if u make a huge fuss out of it while the pple ard u knows the whole situation, wat can i say? too bad for ya? allowing pple and urself a second chance to see both sides of the picture and come to a "closure". it'll solve problems much faster and effectively..

u know ar.. when someone says that they dun mind being used, have u ever wonder and doubt the motive of the person? does he or she sems too good to be true? often, this might and is the case.. coz when someone that's soo all too-wonderful-to-be-true "pop" up in our lives, he or she will definitely stands out in the crowd.. and when that happens, u'll start to question urself.. "oh well, actually he seems fake.. does he has some other intention or what? is he trying to ACT as the kind and gd person or is he trying to make me look like the bad guy? what does he actually wants? he's getting on my nerves being so wonderful.. damn~" den u start to maybe interpret every little action the negative way.. waell, to put it simply, u are jealous.. dun deny.. u are.. at this point in time, most pple, in fact, cant stand the way a person goes all out to be nice to someone or what, juz because he or she really has a kind heart.. we'll(meaning the majority) most probably assume the other way, juz because we cant keep up to it.. as in we cant be as good as or better then the other party..

yeah.. starting to wonder whether u're lidat oso? well, although some of them really are this gd, others might not be.. many a time, we do things for a purpose.. to gain recognition, to gain respect, to gain popularity, or juz likes to be unique and special.. hmm.. no matter wat the intention may be, if it's a gd deed done, i feel that the person shld be given respect, simply bcoz they go an extra step to do sth that most pple will not do.. but wat happens after that is another story.. if that person does sth gd so as to set u up for sth bad, den well, although he or she deserves credit for the gd things, they'll be punished, somehow someway.. so no worries.. juz sit back, relax and wait for the show.. it's true.. coz i believe..